Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Resources






In the foster care world foster/adoptive families are often called "Resource families". After yesterday's placement call and the impending placement possibilities of CJ's sibling(s) and Ekida's soon-to-be-born sibling I'm trying to decide how much of a resource we are.

How much can we handle emotionally? What is the best decision for our family right now? How much can we give of ourselves? I've written before about "The need is the calling" but the need is so great I personally will never be able to fill it. How much can one family do? I don't know.

I'm usually a very logical person. I define a problem, list a set of criteria that would define the answer and then test conclusions based on that logic. There is no logic here. These are tough decisions. Today I'm agonizing over things that are really beyond my control.

6 comments:

Amanda said...

You're right, there is no logic. I hope that things clear up at least a little for you soon.

MommyNay said...

oh wow, so how many kids are we talking about? You said sib(S) and a newborn...what are the ages?
Im excited for you! Keep us posted!!!!

Maggie said...

Such hard decisions. I know as I've been searching for my child, I've inquired about many, many kids. Having to say NO, when you just want to take them all home, is such a hard thing to do. But making choices that are best for your family and best for the child is the most responsible thing to do. Either way, I know you'll make the right decision.

Beth said...

Since being licensed a year and a half ago, we've said yes four times. I don't even remember how many times we've said no. It's so hard.

ina said...

I'm actually commenting on an ad on your site, for "Bethany Christian Services." Maybe you don't have a say on who gets to advertise on your site, but do you really want to be promoting an openly homophobic, anti-gay foster/adoption agency?

Fostermama said...

In an answer to your question...no I don't have any control over the advertisers on the site.